2020 was an interesting year! We started out with Daniel winning “coolest car” for the Pinewood Derby. March 13 was my “last day” in the office. Monday, March 16 was my first day in our dining room “office.” What we thought would only be a few weeks turned into several months. Now we are closing up on one year working from home.
Truthfully, I miss my coworkers and friends from work. I miss leading and facilitating in person meetings. I miss our dining center and the general collegial nature of our workspace and everyone in it from the cooks to the security guards to the servers to the facilities staff to even those whose names I never knew but smiled at daily.
When we do go back, there will be a smile that is missing from the hundreds of familiar faces. My friend Adrian passed away in late October. Her smile lit up every room and she genuinely loved life. My heart breaks even now, months later. I think of all the plans she had and places she wanted to go and see. I wish her life wasn’t cut so short.
During the pandemic, our family grew close to our next door neighbor, Lee Holt. We took meals to her and checked on her several times a week. We enjoyed sunny days in her front yard and talked for hours about everything and about nothing. She had recently “overcome cancer” and we celebrated with cinnamon rolls and a visit from the fire department to her house! I don’t know if we will ever know how much her friendship meant to me and to our family. She meant a lot to us and so our hearts broke again in 2020 with the loss of this sweet friend.
2020 taught me many things:
1. Let Go. So many things were out of our control beginning in mid-March 2020. The school year ended abruptly, and Daniel began remote learning. Being a teacher and working full time was a challenge. However, it was completely out of my control, and out of the control of everyone we knew. We were hit especially hard. Welles' job is selling food to restaurants, an industry that was hit particularly hard during the pandemic.
2. God provides. Welles' lost income was not as big of a hit due to the fact that I was no longer commuting to work, eating lunch out each day, no longer getting nails done, and we missed two vacations (a spring break trip to Callaway Gardens and a baseball trip to Chicago to see the Cubs play at Wrigley field and the White Sox play at their stadium.)
3. Be thankful. With the loss of dear friends, we learned to cherish each day and to be thankful. I vividly remember my last conversation with Adrian, and my last chat with Lee. I'm so thankful that God gave me the opportunity to say, "Love you, Chicka!" to Adrian, and "I love you, too, Lee!" the last time I talked to them.
4. Extend kindness. Life is way to short to hold grudges and live with disappointment or to live with unhappiness. You never know what someone else is going through. Being sincere and offering the best of what you have to give to others is more important than you think. The hardest thing you can do is to be kind to everyone - even those who are difficult to be around or challenging to love. It's easy to be kind to gentle, easy-going people. God encourages us to:
Love the Lord your God with all of your Heart and Soul and Mind.
Matthew 22:37
Love one another, even as I have loved you. By this all men will know that you are my disciples if you have love for one another. John 13:34-35
With all that 2020 taught me, I still have so much to learn! Here's to 2021 and beyond.




























